Mum + Dad.

My Parents are honestly the freaking best! I moved out of home about 8 months ago now in to the house that I purchased and my parents helped me out in every way possible. I wrote them this poem to thank them, however I always got tears in my eyes or got upset when I thought about giving it to them. They still haven’t read it – but I’m hoping one day soon, I will be able to let them read it so they know how thankful I am for the both of them.

From the day I made the decision, you were nothing but proud
Maybe because you were excited for me to leave, as I am far too loud
I know that’s not the case though, you were just so happy for me
But to get to where I am today, didn’t come easily

Without your love, help and support
I wouldn’t own a house, I’d be all out of sort
I cannot thank you both enough
Without you, life sure would have been tough

But now as I take the next step in life
I know that when I leave my towel on the floor, I will not get in strife
Thank you for always cleaning, washing and shopping
Now that it’s my turn to grow up, and do my own thing
I thank you for teaching me everything

I could have not done the move without both of you
and doing it alone, just would have been blue
Thank you for washing and packing everything up
If we did it at mine, means I’d have to clean up

I will miss you more than you think
But you’re always welcome for a drink
I can’t wait for you to come round
Just please don’t judge my dirty ground

I can’t put in to words how much you both mean to me
And how much living with you gave me so much glee
So thank you again for everything you did
But my new house is ready, there goes your last kid

As I write this poem with tears in my eyes
There are so many things that I start to realise
You are truly the best parents a girl could ask for
I can’t believe that I will no longer live there anymore
Who will rub on Lavender, when my head is sore?

I love you Mum and Dad,
You are everything to me
Even though Fischer Road no longer has three
There will always be the love between the two of you and me!

Love yourself.

There are so many of us that just don’t want to be alone, that are always wanting someone by their side or desperately searching. You aren’t alone. Just because you don’t have a special someone in your life, doesn’t mean that you are not loved. Your Family, friends, colleagues, heck even strangers- they spread just as much love and light as a partner could.

I hate seeing people jump from one relationship to another so quickly. I think sometimes the fact of not having someone there scares people, but it shouldn’t. If anything, it should help you grow.

Not being in a relationship, I think is healthy for you. You learn to love yourself and take care of yourself without relying on someone to do it for you or to keep you grounded. This is only the way I look at, a lot of people would completely disagree. I just think that if you can learn to enjoy life and be full of happiness by yourself, you don’t have to rely on someone to do that for you and that’s the best way to be.

I have never been happier and I haven’t dated for a few years now. But in that time frame of not dating, I have truly found myself. I have found new passions that I never knew I loved, I made new friends and re-connected with some old ones. I realised how simple things in life can be the best. Things like going to the markets every Saturday, reading a book with a cup of tea on my back patio or buying myself fresh flowers each week. Things that everyone want other people to do for or with them, but are just as rewarding on your own. Cherish the small things, make them count. That’s what will make you happy.

I grew as a person, and I did it alone. You can too. Don’t be in a toxic relationship or situation and be unhappy, get out, have the time of your life and rediscover yourself – it will be one of the best things you do for yourself! I am not at all saying relationships are bad, they’re great. But if you are unhappy in yours, do the small things I’ve just written above and then you will know exactly when you’re ready for love again.

Life is one big adventure. Enjoy it. Always.

Until next time, T xo

I’m alone, but I don’t need you

When I say alone, I don’t mean it in a way that I am struggling or feel distant. I purely mean that I am single, not dating anyone nor am I interested in a certain someone.

I went through a rough few months, heck you could almost say it was a year where I relied on the catch-ups, text messages and the joy that I got from visiting someone whom I grew quite fond of. It was great for a few months, but then it all just changed. I was the only one making an effort to catch up, obviously feeling down and disappointed when all I used to get in reply was ‘I’m busy that day’ or ‘Don’t really have time at the moment’.

When I look back now, then and there I should have realised it was never going to work. I should have just said my piece and moved on with life but of course, a typical female, I stuck around for far too long. I would message my friends when he did something that annoyed me or didn’t want to catch up (rather than just telling him how I felt). I would message him almost every week for a catch up but more often than not, we wouldn’t do anything – and if we did, it was take out and a movie at home, never anything fun or a “date” as such.

After awhile, I got sick of it as anyone would. I would go a few weeks without speaking to him but then I would catch myself in glimpses of boredom or wanting that afternoon cuddle, and I sent the message and I would go and catch up (on his terms). I did this a few times until I really looked at myself and thought, why? Why put yourself through this, why let him determine when you get to see him and what you do, he only ever wanted to see you when he felt like it.

After too many months, I’m there! I have finally moved on. Why do we all just go with the flow, let people (not just men) treat us in a way we don’t want to be treated nor would we treat anyone else? I learnt so much in this time. Most times than not, we are worthy of so much more than we receive.

You receive the love you think you deserve, so don’t feel cocky or a little bit full of yourself when working out what you want in your relationship. Most of us deserve so much more than we actually think – just remember that! Don’t take as long as I did to work it out either, it’s so simple, we all know the answer deep down, just follow your heart and do what is right for YOU! You will be a better person for it in the long run.

Until next time, keep smiling!
T xo

If you could?

Thought I would get another little quiz up as sometimes they are just as interesting as what I waffle on and write about. I hope you enjoy!

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IF YOU COULD…. 

1. Travel anywhere, where would it be?
   Switzerland
2. Meet anyone, who would it be?
   Patrick Dempsey
3. Bring anyone dead back to life, who would it be?
   Brittany, my cousin
4. Be anyone for a day, who would it be?
   The Queen
5. Get anything for free for the rest of your life what would it be?
   Fruit!
6. Change one thing about your life what would it be?
   To have a life Partner
7. Have any superpower what would it be?
   The ability to fly
8. Be any animal for a day which would you be?
   Dog
9. Date anyone who would it be?
   Josh Duhamel
10. Change one thing about the world what would it be?
    Remove all the hatrid in the world
11. Live in any fictional universe which would you choose?
    Narnia
12. Eliminate one of your human needs which would you get rid of?
    Showering
13. Change one thing about your physical appearance what would it be?
    Thicker hair
14. Change one of your personality traits which would you choose?
    Non-judgemental
15. Be talented at anything instantly what would you choose?
    Singing
16. Forget one event in your life which would you choose?
    My Brother’s motorbike accident
17. Erase an event from history (make it so it never happened) which would you choose?
    The death of a family member
18. Have any hair/eye/skin color, which would you choose?
    Blue eyes
19. Be any weight/body type, which would you choose?
    Just as I am now
20. Live in any country/city, where would you choose?
    Australia or New York City
21. Change one law in your country, which would you change?
    Jail sentence time
22. Be any height, which would you choose?
    Tall, like I am already
23. Have any job in the world, which would you choose?
    If I had kids, stay at home Mum.
24. Have anything appear in your pocket right now, what would it be?
    Cash
25. Have anyone beside you right now, who would it be?
    Someone special.

Until next time, T xx

Western Australia

I have recently returned home from 6 days exploring the West Coast of Australia and I am feeling speechless.  I always sit here day dreaming of New York, Miami, Paris and a whole lot of other international destinations forgetting that some of the most beautiful places are basically in my back yard.

My sweet spot for WA has grown immensely from these past few days. We started with a few days in Perth city was great. Elizabeth Quay, Hillary’s Boat Harbour and Kings Park are highlights just to name a few, but once you strap the adventure boots on and head down South it’s a whole new ball game.

We first started with Busselton and walking the 1.8km long Jetty (the longest in the Southern Hemisphere). This was unbelievable, from the views to the colour of the water to the damn questioning of how the thing is still standing.  We then venture to a place called Meelup Beach, my goodness – this place is TOO good. (definitely chuck it on the ‘must see’ list).

Then we went to Cape Naturaliste light house, a winery in the Margaret River region, Canal Rocks and last, but most definitely not least, Wyadup Rocks. The feeling you get when over looking crystal clear waters and listening to the waves roll in is so mesmerising. For me, something that makes me gasp and in that moment, realise how easy it is to be happy and how wonderful life is/and can be.

And life just gets better when you head over to Rottnest Island, I can’t even put in to words how magnificent the scenery, water colour, rock detail and snorkelling sites are. Do yourself a favour and spend at least two days here cycling around the Island.

I travelled these roads with a really good friend of mine that I have known since about 12 years of age. It was so nice to just sing like absolute idiots and enjoy each other’s company whilst seeing some of the most magical sights of Australia. I will put a few photos down below for you to have a look at and please, please put Western Australia on your to-do-list. It will not let you down!

Until next time, or my next adventure..
T xo

 

Goodbye Sugar..

I like to challenge myself.  I like to do things where I’m not sure if I will succeed at, or if I I will fail. Things that others may think I won’t be able to do.  About a month ago (after the holiday season) I noticed how much garbage I eat.  Compared to some, I’m not that bad but I still eat unhealthy food, a lot.  I noticed a few things lately with diets, cleanses and I thought I would perhaps purchase but then decided that I didn’t want to go on a ‘diet’ as such. I wasn’t doing this for weight loss, as I am quite happy with my figure, I just wanted to see a) if I could be strong and do it b) how my body handles it c) just how much sugar really does affect our bodies.  In the end I decided to Quit Sugar of all forms for 21 days.  I am roughly sticking to Sarah Wilson’s “I Quit Sugar” & Diane Sanfilippo “Sugar Detox” plans just for a rough guideline.

I started last Monday therefore I’m just over a week in to my ‘quit’ as such and I can’t believe how good I am feeling. So many people experience different side affects and feelings, however I couldn’t feel better if I tried.  Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had a couple of small headaches and a day or two where I don’t have as much energy, but I still feel OK because I know that’s just my body adjusting to the change.

I don’t think I am going to stick to this forever, but it has definitely opened my mind to adjusting to a more sugar-free diet when I do decide to introduce it back in to my diet.  I am not saying it is for every one because it is hard completely cutting sugar from your diet, but it’s not impossible.  It’s hard at the start, but the more days you keep pushing on the easier it becomes.  I will put the list below that I am following in case some one is interested in giving it a go – and of course, if you have any questions then just ask!

Be kind to one another.
Until next time, T. ♥

 

Volunteering

Almost a year and half ago now I started something that has now changed my life.
In May 2016, I applied to become a Volunteer at the Children’s Hospital in Brisbane. Not knowing what the program was like and coming into the unknown I was a little nervous about the whole process, but I thought to myself ‘this is a good thing you are doing, stick to it.’ I went along to the meetings and courses that I had to do before I could become a Volunteer and my goodness, I am so glad I followed through with it.

It’s not a whole lot of time, but I volunteer 2.5 hours of my Wednesday nights to do bedside play with the sick children in Hospital. This experience has changed my life, infact it’s almost a weekly reality check. Sometimes we think that we’ve had a bad day, or life isn’t going to plan, when really, life is just fine. It makes you appreciate so much in life. However, that’s not why I did it. I have always loved kids, and to me, if I could put a smile on a sick child’s face for a few minutes, or give the parents a 5 minute coffee break, that would make me one very happy lady.

A year and a half in and I couldn’t think of any other place I would rather spend my Wednesday night. Yes, the fact I get to brighten the nights of some children very much in need is great, but there is another great big bonus and that’s the friendship’s you make too. The Children’s Hospital Foundation staff are absolutely wonderful and I don’t say that lightly. They go over and above for anything and everything. It almost feels like Family.

I’ve made friendships with other Volunteers that I know will last a lifetime and for that I’ll be forever grateful. This is one thing I never want to stop doing and I hope that’s the case. If you have a spare night or a few spare hours of a weekend, I highly recommend a program/cause like this. It will change your life – for the better.

Until next time,

Tara. X