There are so many of us that just don’t want to be alone, that are always wanting someone by their side or desperately searching. You aren’t alone. Just because you don’t have a special someone in your life, doesn’t mean that you are not loved. Your Family, friends, colleagues, heck even strangers- they spread just as much love and light as a partner could.
I hate seeing people jump from one relationship to another so quickly. I think sometimes the fact of not having someone there scares people, but it shouldn’t. If anything, it should help you grow.
Not being in a relationship, I think is healthy for you. You learn to love yourself and take care of yourself without relying on someone to do it for you or to keep you grounded. This is only the way I look at, a lot of people would completely disagree. I just think that if you can learn to enjoy life and be full of happiness by yourself, you don’t have to rely on someone to do that for you and that’s the best way to be.
I have never been happier and I haven’t dated for a few years now. But in that time frame of not dating, I have truly found myself. I have found new passions that I never knew I loved, I made new friends and re-connected with some old ones. I realised how simple things in life can be the best. Things like going to the markets every Saturday, reading a book with a cup of tea on my back patio or buying myself fresh flowers each week. Things that everyone want other people to do for or with them, but are just as rewarding on your own. Cherish the small things, make them count. That’s what will make you happy.
I grew as a person, and I did it alone. You can too. Don’t be in a toxic relationship or situation and be unhappy, get out, have the time of your life and rediscover yourself – it will be one of the best things you do for yourself! I am not at all saying relationships are bad, they’re great. But if you are unhappy in yours, do the small things I’ve just written above and then you will know exactly when you’re ready for love again.
Life is one big adventure. Enjoy it. Always.
Until next time, T xo