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Love yourself.

There are so many of us that just don’t want to be alone, that are always wanting someone by their side or desperately searching. You aren’t alone. Just because you don’t have a special someone in your life, doesn’t mean that you are not loved. Your Family, friends, colleagues, heck even strangers- they spread just as much love and light as a partner could.

I hate seeing people jump from one relationship to another so quickly. I think sometimes the fact of not having someone there scares people, but it shouldn’t. If anything, it should help you grow.

Not being in a relationship, I think is healthy for you. You learn to love yourself and take care of yourself without relying on someone to do it for you or to keep you grounded. This is only the way I look at, a lot of people would completely disagree. I just think that if you can learn to enjoy life and be full of happiness by yourself, you don’t have to rely on someone to do that for you and that’s the best way to be.

I have never been happier and I haven’t dated for a few years now. But in that time frame of not dating, I have truly found myself. I have found new passions that I never knew I loved, I made new friends and re-connected with some old ones. I realised how simple things in life can be the best. Things like going to the markets every Saturday, reading a book with a cup of tea on my back patio or buying myself fresh flowers each week. Things that everyone want other people to do for or with them, but are just as rewarding on your own. Cherish the small things, make them count. That’s what will make you happy.

I grew as a person, and I did it alone. You can too. Don’t be in a toxic relationship or situation and be unhappy, get out, have the time of your life and rediscover yourself – it will be one of the best things you do for yourself! I am not at all saying relationships are bad, they’re great. But if you are unhappy in yours, do the small things I’ve just written above and then you will know exactly when you’re ready for love again.

Life is one big adventure. Enjoy it. Always.

Until next time, T xo
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I’m alone, but I don’t need you

When I say alone, I don’t mean it in a way that I am struggling or feel distant. I purely mean that I am single, not dating anyone nor am I interested in a certain someone.

I went through a rough few months, heck you could almost say it was a year where I relied on the catch-ups, text messages and the joy that I got from visiting someone whom I grew quite fond of. It was great for a few months, but then it all just changed. I was the only one making an effort to catch up, obviously feeling down and disappointed when all I used to get in reply was ‘I’m busy that day’ or ‘Don’t really have time at the moment’.

When I look back now, then and there I should have realised it was never going to work. I should have just said my piece and moved on with life but of course, a typical female, I stuck around for far too long. I would message my friends when he did something that annoyed me or didn’t want to catch up (rather than just telling him how I felt). I would message him almost every week for a catch up but more often than not, we wouldn’t do anything – and if we did, it was take out and a movie at home, never anything fun or a “date” as such.

After awhile, I got sick of it as anyone would. I would go a few weeks without speaking to him but then I would catch myself in glimpses of boredom or wanting that afternoon cuddle, and I sent the message and I would go and catch up (on his terms). I did this a few times until I really looked at myself and thought, why? Why put yourself through this, why let him determine when you get to see him and what you do, he only ever wanted to see you when he felt like it.

After too many months, I’m there! I have finally moved on. Why do we all just go with the flow, let people (not just men) treat us in a way we don’t want to be treated nor would we treat anyone else? I learnt so much in this time. Most times than not, we are worthy of so much more than we receive.

You receive the love you think you deserve, so don’t feel cocky or a little bit full of yourself when working out what you want in your relationship. Most of us deserve so much more than we actually think – just remember that! Don’t take as long as I did to work it out either, it’s so simple, we all know the answer deep down, just follow your heart and do what is right for YOU! You will be a better person for it in the long run.

Until next time, keep smiling!
T xo

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A bunch of Q&A’s

1) Grab the book nearest to you, turn to page 18, and find line 4. Type the sentence down below

Eyes up, footwork, passes (it’s a netball book)

2) Stretch your left arm out as far as you can, What can you touch?
My work phone and notepad

3) Before you started this survey, what were you doing?
Working and drinking my Latte

4) What is the last thing you watched on TV?
NCIS

5) What are on the walls of the room you are in?
Photos of family and friends, whiteboard and a NRL Season Fixture calendar

6) Tell me something about you that most people don’t know.
I love to relax and debrief to myself – I am such an energetic person and happy 99% of the time. I love being that way, but sometimes that makes people think that you’re always OK.  I love nothing better than sitting back with a cup of tea and reflecting on things and having a sad moment if I need one.

7) Who made the last incoming call on your phone?
A Face time call from my Dad from London- can’t wait for them to come home.

8) What is the last thing you downloaded onto your computer?
A few pictures from my phone.

9) Last time you swam in a pool?
A few weeks ago when I had a weekend away in Maroochydore.

10) Choice of clothes, branded or local?
Definitely local.  I see no point in paying ridiculous amounts of money for clothing that you can get sick of so easily and also the fact that for what some people pay for one item of clothing, I can almost get a whole outfit!

11) Your last massage? What type?
I used to go so frequently, but I haven’t been in so long.  It would have been a full body massage though.  I always contemplate what to get, but in the end I always go with the full body.  Once someone massages my shoulders or just my legs it leaves me wanting more.  Can’t go wrong with a full body.

12) What was the last thing you bought?
A TDE Clutch for my Mum for Mother’s Day

13) What is the first thing you think of when you wake up in the morning?
‘I wonder what today will bring?’

14) If you were to spend a day with a famous person, who would it be?
Sophia Bush.

15) Who sent the last text message you received?
Tahlia- one of my best friends.

16) Is the glass half empty or half full?

People say I’m a glass half full so I’ll go with that.

17) Would you go all out with PDA’s? (Public Display’s of Affection)

Only what I’m comfortable with.

18) How are you feeling right now?
Happy & grateful.

19) Would you consider going further on your first date, if everything goes well?
First date is getting to know each other, nothing else. If everything goes well from there, then I’d just have to look at planning more dates.

20) What is the last movie that you saw at the cinema?
I can’t even remember it was that long ago.  I’m not a cinema girl.

21) Do you sing in the shower?
Who doesn’t?  I don’t think I’ve ever gotten in and not sung.

22) Which came first the chicken or the egg?
The chicken…. Is this a trick question?

23) How many keys on your key ring?

WAY too many. It’s ridiculous!

24) What are your best physical features?
I like my eyes! But I am happy with what I’ve got, I’m far, far from perfect but there is no point in wishing you were something or someone else.  Be happy with what you were given and embrace it. No one is perfect.

25) What are your best characteristics?
I am easy going.  I am thoughtful and caring towards people and I love to have a laugh.  I like to think that I am happy majority of the time which I think more people need to do.

26) What is your favorite time of the day?

Sunrise or sunset…those parts of the day are just magical.

27) What would you say is your ‘dress’ code right now? Formal, casual, comfortable, minimal?

Casual and comfortable.

28) How many rings before you answer the phone?
Usually one or two at work, I don’t want to keep people waiting.

29) What is most important in life?
Family and being happy.

30) What are the places people are least likely to find you?
A Library, or a dentist- yuck.

31) An unforgettable moment(s)
Travelling with my Parents.  New York with one of my best friends.  Simple sunrise moments to appreciate life. Winning Grand Finals for netball with some of my best friends.

32) If you could change one thing about the world, what would it be?
For every one to lead a healthy lifestyle.

33) Do you like to dance?
After a few sneaky beverage, sure.

34) Would you ever consider living abroad?
I did think about it, but I have travelled a far bit and I just love coming home to Australia.  Don’t get me wrong, the world is just magnificent but nothing beats home.

Jump on board and answer the above questions- it really makes you think hard and be honest with yourself.  Let me know if you post the answers, I would love to have a read and learn new facts about people worldwide.

Thanks to ‘Inspirational Gem’ for posting her Answers for us to read and inspiring me to do the same.  Check out her page if you get a chance, worth the read: https://inspirationalgem.wordpress.com/

Sending happiness and love your way…
Until next time,  T  x

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