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To the Negative’s

For being such a positive person, it’s usually so easy for me to shut out the negativity that is around these days.  However, there is only so much a human can take. I am the best at always smiling, and even smiling when sometime’s I don’t really want to. I’m always very good at taking the best out of any situation. But lately, I have so much negativity coming my way from people you really just need to grow up and get a life, but it’s hit me. It’s so hard to be extra positive when every one around you is trying to bring you down… I didn’t want to let them win – that is one of my biggest factors, don’t let the mean people win, but sometime’s it just becomes too much.

I’m a coach, a good coach at that. I’ll admit that in the least snobbish way. However, there is so many derogative comments from every one around you that doesn’t Volunteer their time, or appreciate what you do. So, to those people, I right the following letter.  I may never send it, but I had to right it.


Over the last few weeks I’ve heard comments that are being made behind my back. I have heard many things that are being said such as my quality as a coach, my skill level, people full of ‘suggestions’ as to who should be on the court or who is a ‘better’ player or how I lost that day’s game for the kids. I thought I’d write an open letter to all of you parents, even though I might never send it. I’ll start it this way: “I am a volunteer.”

I’m the one who put my hand up to coach the State League team, there’s a big start already, not a lot of people would put their hands up for that position. I understand that you all of you are too busy. I have some news for you, I’m not retired, I hold down a full time job. I’m busy too, trying my very best to teach and improve these children how to play a sport they love. And on top of that full time job that most of us have, I train hard and commit to my State League team and have only my Sunday’s free for my own self. Not only do I not get paid to do this – it costs me money.

I know. I make mistakes. In fact, I’m never going to be close to being perfect. But I treat the kids fairly and with respect; and without me or someone like me, there’d be no team for them to play on. I’m part of this community too and it’s no picnic being out here on this stage like this. It’s a lot easier back there with the other parents where no one is second-guessing you.

After this game is over, I’ll be the last one to leave. I have to pack up all the gear and make sure everyone has had a parent arrive to pick them up. There have been evenings when the Manager and I waited with a player for some time until someone eventually came to get them. Many nights I’m sure you’ve already had dinner and are relaxing on the couch by the time I finally get home and kick off my shoes.

If I sound angry, I’m not. I do this because I love it and I love being around the kids and teaching them this wonderful game. There are plenty of rewards and I remind myself that while you’re out there throwing around derogative and nasty things about my persona or coaching. The positives outweigh the negatives. I just wish sometime those who don’t choose to volunteer their time would leave the coaching to the few of us who do.

Yours sincerely

The Coach”

Has anyone had this happen to them over the years? I’d love to hear your stories, or ways that help you keep a positive mind frame about it all? It doesn’t have to be sport related, this can happen in so many different situations.

So, until next time.. Be Happy, Smile, and please throw around kindness like confetti- negativity is awful, and if you can kick those negative thoughts from your mind, I guarantee you’ll become a better person.

T.. xx


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Meet the Blogger

Good Morning from Australia!

I’ve decided that I’m going to try and do a Questionnaire/Quiz post each month so that hopefully my followers start to get to know me and my lifestyle a little better.

I thought I’d start off with one about me personally, so here I go.


1. Are you named after anyone? Not that I know, my Mum had a different name picked out but was adamant I was going to be a boy so she didn’t really mind what girls name they had picked out. Dad said he didn’t like the name Mum had chosen so picked ‘Tara’ so Dad won that time round.

2. When was the last time you cried? Last night, Mum and I watched the movie ‘Me before You’…. tear jerker!!!

3. Do you have kids? No, but I look forward to the day I do.

4. If you were another person, would you be a friend of yourself? Yeah, I would.

5. Do you use sarcasm a lot? Probably too much, but I would rather be sarcastic than too serious. I just be careful who I use it around

6. Will you ever bungee-jump? I don’t think I could bring my self to do it.

7. What’s your favorite cereal? Coco Pops or Sugar frosties!

8. What’s the first thing you notice about people? Their smile.

9. What is your eye colour? Hazel.

10. Scary movie or happy endings? Definitely happy endings.

11. Favorite smells? Woodwick candles.

12. Summer or winter? I’m a Summer girl, I love to rug up and the Winter food but nothing beats sunshine on the beach!

13. Computer or television? TV.

14. What’s the furthest you’ve ever been from home? Europe.

15. Do you have any special talents? Not exactly… it’s not a talent but a lot of people don’t know that I can play the Clarinet quite well..

16. Where were you born? In QLD, Australia.

17. What are your hobbies? Netball, picnics in the park, spending time with my family, running and plenty more.

18. Do you have any pets? I used to have a dog, but haven’t had any pets for years.

19. Favorite movie? The list could go on forever, but I’ll name a few- Jumper, Fast and Furious sequels, Suddenly 30, Taken.

20. Do you have any siblings? Yes…2 older Brothers, they are seriously the best!

21. What do you want to be when you grow up? I want to be happy, always.

Until next time, T xx



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My favourite destination

There’s just something about the way you feel when you decide to travel.

The weeks or months leading up to it give you so many mixed emotions. The sense of being disorganised or not well prepared but then the absolute excitement that you’re about to head away on a holiday. Whether it be just to Sydney, a little further to New Zealand or 20 something hours away, I always get that buzz. Travelling completely changes me, not to say it changes every one, but me, definitely.

I am always a energetic and happy person, but when it comes time to travel, I don’t know how but I become even happier, a smile as wide as my cheeks. Even when I go for a week, it feels like 2, a month feels like 6…and that’s the thing I love about holidaying.

I’ve been lucky enough to see a fair few places, all which have been so surreal and spectacular… I always thought that you could never have a favourite overseas travel destination because every place offers different things and are so unique in their own ways but I was wrong – I went somewhere (twice) and both times I left a part of me there.

New York City.

You hear the term ‘the city that never sleeps’ and kind of just think, ‘yeah, ok’ but until you see and experience it, that term is bang on. I find New York absolutely admirable. The sky, to the fresh air, high rises, rooftop bars, Central Park, literally everything in New York makes me ridiculously happy. To be honest, I can’t even explain why I love it so much, I just know that this one city, makes me feel so alive. More than I do any where else, even my own home town.

I have been twice now, I got to experience it with my parents which was amazing and the perfect people to spend my first time in New York with, it was very special. The second was for my 21st birthday, with my best friend at the time. We had a blast! Bike rides through Central Park, cocktails on rooftops, ice skating at the Rockefeller Centre and so much more. But the one moment that just stopped me in my tracks and made me feel like I had no care in the world was when we visited 230 Fifth. High above the city of New York was the most unbelievable bar, the staff were delightful, the drinks were spot on, my company was brilliant.  Put those few things together and you basically have the perfect night, the one thing that topped it off was it overlooked the Empire State Building.

I got the shivers at how perfect I felt in this moment and in fact, thinking about it still gives me that same feeling.  I hope I get to experience it again one day, in the exact same spot because in that moment, I felt complete. Whole.

I’ll post a photo below – check out the view. And please, if you are heading to New York, you HAVE to visit this marvelous bar. It’s impressively mind blowing to say the least.

Until next time, T xx


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