For being such a positive person, it’s usually so easy for me to shut out the negativity that is around these days. However, there is only so much a human can take. I am the best at always smiling, and even smiling when sometime’s I don’t really want to. I’m always very good at taking the best out of any situation. But lately, I have so much negativity coming my way from people you really just need to grow up and get a life, but it’s hit me. It’s so hard to be extra positive when every one around you is trying to bring you down… I didn’t want to let them win – that is one of my biggest factors, don’t let the mean people win, but sometime’s it just becomes too much.
I’m a coach, a good coach at that. I’ll admit that in the least snobbish way. However, there is so many derogative comments from every one around you that doesn’t Volunteer their time, or appreciate what you do. So, to those people, I right the following letter. I may never send it, but I had to right it.
Over the last few weeks I’ve heard comments that are being made behind my back. I have heard many things that are being said such as my quality as a coach, my skill level, people full of ‘suggestions’ as to who should be on the court or who is a ‘better’ player or how I lost that day’s game for the kids. I thought I’d write an open letter to all of you parents, even though I might never send it. I’ll start it this way: “I am a volunteer.”
I’m the one who put my hand up to coach the State League team, there’s a big start already, not a lot of people would put their hands up for that position. I understand that you all of you are too busy. I have some news for you, I’m not retired, I hold down a full time job. I’m busy too, trying my very best to teach and improve these children how to play a sport they love. And on top of that full time job that most of us have, I train hard and commit to my State League team and have only my Sunday’s free for my own self. Not only do I not get paid to do this – it costs me money.
I know. I make mistakes. In fact, I’m never going to be close to being perfect. But I treat the kids fairly and with respect; and without me or someone like me, there’d be no team for them to play on. I’m part of this community too and it’s no picnic being out here on this stage like this. It’s a lot easier back there with the other parents where no one is second-guessing you.
After this game is over, I’ll be the last one to leave. I have to pack up all the gear and make sure everyone has had a parent arrive to pick them up. There have been evenings when the Manager and I waited with a player for some time until someone eventually came to get them. Many nights I’m sure you’ve already had dinner and are relaxing on the couch by the time I finally get home and kick off my shoes.
If I sound angry, I’m not. I do this because I love it and I love being around the kids and teaching them this wonderful game. There are plenty of rewards and I remind myself that while you’re out there throwing around derogative and nasty things about my persona or coaching. The positives outweigh the negatives. I just wish sometime those who don’t choose to volunteer their time would leave the coaching to the few of us who do.
Has anyone had this happen to them over the years? I’d love to hear your stories, or ways that help you keep a positive mind frame about it all? It doesn’t have to be sport related, this can happen in so many different situations.
So, until next time.. Be Happy, Smile, and please throw around kindness like confetti- negativity is awful, and if you can kick those negative thoughts from your mind, I guarantee you’ll become a better person.